Loneliness SUCKS!!! (Battling a Chronic Illness)

(This is an experience that I thought I share that happened to me last night.) 12/9/2019

Depression is very scary and the most important thing to do, if you feel that this is you, is to seek professional help immediately.

Here, as I do everyday, alone. Sometimes I feel like I’m wasting away with no where to go and no one to share my true feelings with. It’s true that I live in the house with three other family members who I rely for everything. But even though this is true, everyone has their own agendas, their own lives to live. You see there are only a select group of Snowflakes, Spoonies and Warrior’s who understand exactly what we go through each and everyday and night of our lives. And believe you me, it is impossible to make others understand. This goes for immediate and extended family, friends, coworkers as well as the medical community.

My husband works three jobs to keep a roof over our heads and medical insurance to cover my medical care. It’s hard on me to watch him work so hard. He states, “I do it because I love you.” We’ve been together for 33 years and married for 31. Through our love we have three amazingly talented children: one son, two daughters and one beautiful daughter-in-law. I married very well, but it still hurts to see hime work so hard with very little sleep.

For twenty years I have been battling these debilitating diseases and I never once stated or felt that I was depressed. Lately though these feelings have began to surface. With my ability to function and the ability for my physician’s to treat me decreasing at a fast rate; I don’t know or understand how anyone could not feel this way.

I have tried to use my time wisely during the days by delving into studying biblical hebrew and loving my animals, Most of the time that’s not possible because I am so tired or in too much pain. I feel guilty toward The Most High that I let these emotions in. It feels like I am not placing my faith in him or myself for that matter. All those that know me, know that I have always keep my spirits up and prayed up so that I can help myself and help others who need an ear or a shoulder to cry on. Those that suffer with these invisible illnesses that are incurable, having very little research done to find a cure (because there is very little federal funding or help initiated towards it), as well as doctor’s and their medical communities who have little knowledge about them or even the correct way to treat them.

Much of last night I spent trying to remove those emotions from my system. You see, after going to a doctors visit and being told that another major flare up might be occurring or is active at the present, is overwhelming. This means a new regiment of testing and two infusions are in the works. I end up vented to my family and said some things that should have been left unsaid. My emotions were huge and on overdrive. My husband said that, “It was my medications caused my outburst.” My children stated that my reactions and my statements were crazy or wrong. Words were spoken towards me saying, “I never listened to them when I was trying to get my feelings out correctly.” I tried to get them to understand but nothing would come out right. I truly felt very crazy like I was losing my mind.

I wanted to actually stop being, but Yah stepped in and removed those thoughts and emotions from my spirit. I thank Yah for being omnipotent and gracious with me and granting me with an understanding family.

I let myself down last night because depression is not me. I have never let the Devil in my life because I trust the Most High to much. Always have.

I’ve had the best childhood growing up. Coming from a large family with nine siblings (2 brothers died young); 6 girls and 1 brother. I am next to the baby girl, a.k.a. #5 daughter. LOL 😁 Now my parents, grandparents, in-laws and some of my older siblings are all gone now and that is one of the causes for my loneliness. The youngest remain. The only son and the two youngest girls. Wanting to call them, talk to them, hug them and gain more wisdom from them are what I face all the time. My father instilled in me the moral law and the love of Yahuah and I will always treasure that.

I lost a huge part of my life in fighting these illnesses (Sarcoidosis, Fibromyalgia, Dystonia, Rheumatoid Arthritis, etc.) and the lost of my family. But the loneliness never equated depression. Knowing that death is just one part of life.

All in all, I will continue to fight because I have a lot of fightleft in me. But the overall reason for this post is to inform anyone that is in my position; you are not alone. If at anytime you feel like all hope is lost, reach out and talk to someone, meditate or pray, but mostly reach out and talk to someone.

Peace and blessings to you always and forevermore.

I am,

Marilyn

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Where Is My Relief?

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Waking up in pain everyday isn’t how I envisioned my life to be. Diagnosed 18 years ago and been living debilitating pain that no one could possibly handle on their own. Prescribed medicine’s do not work for my good. They just caused more problems, more pain.

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Waking up in pain is not what I envisioned my married life would be. I hurt because I can’t be the wife that my hubby Karl needs. Instead of me taking care of him, he instead takes care of me. Causing an extra burden to be placed on his shoulders because of my stupid illness hurts my heart. Watching him age before my eyes. Saddening. Hurtful. Regretful. Sorrowful.Β In his eyes he loves me and I am thankful. Karl honors our vows to each other. Honestly, that speaks volumes to his character. Cares for me like no other. He is a blessed man of The Most High that was created just for me. I am blessed because he chose me. Selah

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Waking up in pain each day is not what I envisioned my life as a parent to be. Diagnosed when my children were 12, 9 and 2 months respectively. Just babies themselves having to take on the role of caretaker to their own mother. Missing out on a lot because of me. Having one resent me because of it. Missing out on caring for the baby a lot because of the pain. They are 30 (KJ), 27 (Ka’miko Mai’) and 18 (Kimora-Lynn) now and I can truly say I am blessed that they chose me as mom from heaven. They make me fight each day to live. Even with the pain, I could not have made it this far without them. There are many others in my shoes that do not have the support system that I have and I pray for them everyday. But I am so thankful that my family loves me and stays in my corner. The Most High seen favor with me and blessed me with another daughter. My daughter Hadar, KJs wife, not only loves me but she is also an active advocate for me and Sarcoidosis. She helps me with my health choices and also with my life. She educates others about Sarcoidosis, making them understand what I struggle with everyday. She loves me and that is such a blessing.

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Chronic pain, living with Sarcoidosis, living with an Invisible illness, living with an incurable debilitating disease and finally, living with a rare disease; this is my life. I fight through the pain, I smile through the pain, I live through the pain.

Peace and blessings to you always Warrior’s.